You Have To Know What To Ask To Get What You Want

Posted on January 8, 2012 by DeBorah Beatty

Recently I had a question on a product I had purchased.  But after 15 minutes of being frustrated trying to explain what it was I was asking, I finally told the customer support person on the other end of the line what it was I wanted to do, why I wanted to do it and asked what I should ask if I want to do it again sometime.

Made me think. So many times, we’re told to ask for what you want. The “Law of Attraction”  tells us to concentrate on what we want to bring it to us.  But the thing that is confounding most folks I speak with is how to be sure that what you’re asking for is what you want.

One of the basic tenets of asking for what you want is being clear about the end result. Here’s what I mean:

Close your eyes (well, after you read this part) and imagine you’re talking with your Faerie Godmother. She has in her hand a wand that will grant any one wish you have, but only one. What do you say to her, how do you phrase the question to be as precise as possible, given that this is something you have wanted forever and now have to figure out how to ask for it so you ensure you get it? Hard, isn’t it?

So let’s try a little trick of mine.  Imagine you already have that which you crave the most; whatever that is. As I cover in DreamBuilding 101, until you have a grasp on what it is you want that is solid enough to start seeing where it doesn’t quite satisfy all your desires, it isn’t real to you and remains at arms’ length.

Getting really clear on the end result you desire from asking a question is a process just like anything else. I now use the following mental checklist when asking questions.

1. What do I want to do? (Desired result)

2. Why do I want to do it (Need)

3. What I’ve already done (Experience)

4. What is stopping me (Details)

5. Can I replicate it again with the information I receive?

My checklist has come in handy more often than I can tell you.

 

 

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It’s Festivus! Happy Holidays

Posted on December 27, 2011 by DeBorah Beatty

This is one of the  hardest, saddest and most melancholy celebratory periods of the year.  So many are joyously running about charging up credit cards they’ll whine about next year, wearing yuletide clothing and silly hats, and for some it’s downright unbearable.

I’ve had years where to watch the merriment that surrounds this season has been unbelievable painful. And, there have been years where I was happy to join in. So I can see both sides.

I’m thinking now about a friend of mine. She has no family left, was an only child and has an only child who is now making Holiday plans with her new husband and his family. Things have not been stable for her this year financially and there is nothing beyond the critical expenditures in the budget for anything extra.

The Yuletide season was always her favorite growing up. She loved the decorations, the parties, the silly gift exchanges and the fun of seasonal secrecy. She told me this makes it twice as hard for her to deal with the sadness she feels. She’s tried without success to generate some feeling of “something” other than to want to crawl under the covers and sleep till all the noise is over.

What I’ve attempted to share with her is that we, ourselves, are the only ones who can control how we feel. It’s a choice to feel happy or sad during this season. Why not enjoy the expectant energy in the air and work on creating something new for 2012. This is such a great opportunity. If you’re not rushing around shopping and attending parties, take advantage of the time when everyone else is busy and will leave you alone to make plans, goals and get clear on what you want to create in the new year.

Above all, set yourself do-able goals that still stretch you beyond your comfort zone. 2012 looks to be a good year for that.

Happy Holidays from Created Life Strategies and me.

 

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Somewhere In Your Rainbow: Colors of your life

Posted on December 13, 2011 by DeBorah Beatty

Funny how we relate to our mood and our health in terms of color.

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Many years ago, I discovered that I perceive people as colors. What I see, or don’t see, is different from an aura. I can see those if I try and squint just right. But mostly I get a wash of color when I meet someone and get to know them that stays with me even after they’ve moved to the other side of the world!

I have a dear friend in California that is the clearest turquoise/ peacock blue that changes to a stormy washed out denim shade when he’s upset or ill.  There’s another friend who now lives in Shanghai who is the prettiest peoni pink but becomes a funky persimmon when she’s stressed.

I started researching color analysis as it relates to personality and identity and came up with a system I call Color By Number.

Based on a premise that when we are born, there is an energy that corresponds with a visual range we resonate to, Color By Number uncovers the color infuences of our birth, our lives and our futures.

Besides, it’s fun!

Using a combination of numerology and color analysis, I determine what colors affect your world and your attitudes, your choices and your life.

Curious to see what colors guide your life? Click below to get your personalized Color By Number Report.

FAQs about Color By Number:

  1.  What information will I need to provide to get my report?
    1.  Your name at birth
    2.  The name you use now
    3.  Your birthdate
  2.  What is included in the report?
    1. An overall personalized analysis
    2. Specific information on each of the color rays
    3. Suggestions to maximize potential using my system
  3.  What does it cost?
    1. For an electronic version sent by email: $49
    2. For a bound printed version sent by Priority Mail  $68 (includes shipping and handling)
  4. How can I pay for the report?
    1. I take PayPal, checks or credit cards.

Wherever you are on your personal rainbow, come and find out what color you REALLY are.

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Who’s In Charge of Your Life?

Posted on November 20, 2011 by DeBorah Beatty

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Turn Your To Do List Into A Ta DAH! List

Posted on October 21, 2011 by DeBorah Beatty

It really can be done, and besides, it’s fun!

Has your to do list turned into an epic of hopes and dreams? Mine did. When I got to 10 pages of things I needed (or so I thought) to do, I suddenly woke up and realized some of those things were just not going to happen.

For some reason, when we’re writing down our to-do’s, we haven’t moved out of the stone age when images and words were carved in stone and were intended to be around forever. I don’t know about you, but I still have a hard time deleting things off my task list and then letting them go. I’m getting better at it, but for me it’s a huge time waster to spend all that energy on things I am just not going to get to (and knew I probably would not get to them when I wrote them down)!

So, I shifted my focus and now have a different method of keeping on top of tasks.

1) For every task I take on and write down I ask myself the following questions:

  •  Can I get this done in 24 hours?
  • Do I have all the resources it will take to complete this?
  • Can I break this task down into smaller do-able parts?
  • Can I delegate this to anyone to get it done competently within my budget?
  • Do I even want to start this?
  • Will doing this further my business or bring in revenue?

2) For every task I take on and write down, I evaluate whether doing this will make a difference in my business 6 months down the road.

3) For every task I take on and write down, I plan how I’m going to celebrate its completion and I write that down, too.

4) For every task I complete, I actually follow through and take time to celebrate it.

5) I keep my To-Do lists that are completely redlined (I draw a red line through the completed tasks) in sight for a week to remind me of what I have already done.

6) I use my Gratitude Journal to document task completion.

Doing this will keep your to-do list from getting bloated and unwieldy and keep you on target. Give it a try.

And if you don’t use a to-do list at all, tune in next time for some alternatives to keep on task.

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